New Wife
I am learning. I recently celebrated my 1 year anniversary with my husband. We did A LOT in our first year, and I mean A LOT. We got married, we went to 5 other weddings across the country, we moved, we both started new jobs, and I ended a job. We are also pregnant with our first child. Woooo.... I told you it was a lot. I had to set the scene because on top of all of that, I had to figure out how to be a good wife, balance the friendships that I had prior to being someone's wife, figure out how our finances work together, how to support him through whatever he is going through. Maintain my independence while learning how to bend and let him lead. Really the list goes on and on.. and obviously I didn't solve it all in a year! Heck, I don't even think I cracked the surface.
I should also share that I was married when I was younger. It was a disaster. I wasn't a great wife, and my ex husband was even worse. We parted ways when he cheated on me... so yeah, there may be some baggage there too. Sue me.
Needless to say, I have experienced a lot of life. I have been burnt badly and I am now in a healthy, loving, supportive relationship and I don't want to mess it up. So each day is an intentional exercise in listening, adjusting and learning. I fail often, but each day I am back at it. Trying to be better for my husband, for myself, friends and family.
Being a new wife is exciting and hard. I don't have the same priorities that I used to, and other relationships have had to shift to make room for this new role I have taken on. I'll give myself a B to start, which means this post is TBC.
Author: Randi